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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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Making your Mind up

What is it you want in life? 
Success?
Love?
Happiness?
The list can go on forever, it can be hard to concentrate on one thing at a time and being this way could be holding us back from achieving what it is we really desire. We are confusing the universe. Imagine that someone asks you for something, then asks again minutes later for something very slightly different, and keeps doing this over and over again. It would be too confusing a wish to grant, yes? Life is confusing, nobody will argue with us there I’m sure, but life needn’t be impossible. We can have order in amongst the chaos. If we want to ask the universe for something, we need to give it clear and direct instructions of what we want, then we need to let it go; the more thought we give it afterwards, the bigger the chance of it not working out the way we want it to. Make your wish, say your prayer and trust in the power of the universe and its core inside of you to provide what you ask for.

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Fresh Starts 

So we are now in 2017, it’s the season of resolutions and fresh starts for many of us, but how many of us actually succeed in the goals that we set ourselves? We all have good intentions in wanting change to happen, but in reality we also fear the outcome. Sometimes we give ourselves unrealistic time limits that all too quickly come around without us achieving what we set out to achieve, which ultimately persuades us it’s better to give up. It’s hard starting a new project or program of change – no matter how big or small it may be – and putting limits on ourselves before we start is a recipe for disaster. When starting something new, no matter what it is, we need to begin slowly, learn as much as we can and study the people that have gone before us and see how they got what they wanted. We need to find out everything we can and be prepared to fail over and over again whilst still never giving up. Life is full of challenges that help us grow, and it’s having the ability to stay strong during these times that eventually leads us to where we want to be. Life is tough but so are we; we can be anything we choose to be, we can be whoever we choose to be. Life isn’t predestined, we get to choose each step of our journey and we have full control if we choose to use it.

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Finding one’s self

The majority of people I talk to all seem to have the same problem in their lives and it comes in many forms. If we dig a little deeper, the underlying issue we all have appears to come down to self-confidence or self-awareness; or the lack of. I know it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to come up with that conclusion and neither does it take a brain surgeon to realise that learning to love oneself can change how we feel – but I’m not only talking about ourselves. It can also change how we see the world around us. When life starts becoming a little overwhelming, I have come up with a plan of action that I use to change the direction I’m travelling in. By splitting my life up into sections, I sit down and analyse them: personal, work, family, love-life and the like. I look at them all as separate realities until I can single out which part of my life is causing the issue, as it’s not always apparent. Let me explain; we all live our lives as a single entity because that’s what we perceive it to be, but in reality we all live multiple lives and sometimes we let the issues from one determine how we feel in another. If we can learn to become more self-aware, we become more aware of how life works, we recognise that we play a number of roles depending on our circumstances. When at home we play the role of partner, parent, sibling, home owner. When at work we play the roles of boss or worker, client or customer etc. I think you’re getting the drift. It’s all too easy to let the different roles we have affect how we live the others, and unless we are willing to recognise that this, nothing will ever change. If we are willing to see that we are living our lives this way, we can make dramatic changes without affecting the balance of what is working. Self-confidence and self-awareness give us the opportunity to challenge ourselves and encourage us to succeed where we would usually fail, and by having the confidence to ask ourselves the questions about who we are and what makes us tick, we can start building a life all our personalities can exist within harmoniously. 

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Blame Game 

Blame Game 
Who holds the responsibility for our happiness? Who’s responsible for the mishaps and disasters in our lives? Is it us or is it society’s place to make sure that life is fair? I believe that happiness is our job; if we are unhappy, it’s usually down to us being somewhere we don’t belong or somewhere we don’t want to be, and the answer to this problem is to make changes and do something about it. We don’t get anywhere feeling sorry for ourselves and blaming others for our unhappiness. That’s counter-productive: it wastes time and just turns us into self-absorbed beings usually feeling alone and stuck in a rut. By taking responsibility for our happiness we get to choose how we feel. Happiness is a choice, not a reaction to circumstances. I know for a fact that I annoy people with my positivity – it drives them crazy that even when life is seemingly not going well, I have the ability to look on the bright side and look past the situation to see what can be, not what is. Life is short, it can be taken away with a blink of an eye and we shouldn’t waste one second of it by being negative and indulging in defeatist attitudes. If you are a regular reader of my blog then you know that what I talk about I believe in 100%, not out of pure devotion or need, but out of pure belief in myself. Everything I advise on I have practised myself and found to be effective. If I haven’t seen proof then I don’t advise it, simple. How most of the methods work I don’t know, but they do, and for me, that’s good enough. I don’t know or understand how a bird flies, but I know it can so I expect it. It’s not religious, it’s not a cult or a fad, it’s just a way of living life with hope and self-belief.

The fault or responsibility for our mishaps is down to life itself and has nothing to do with society at all – life is a bitch to everyone, not just to you. We all have stuff happening that others don’t understand or even care about, but still it’s happening to every single person on this planet, and it’s how we react to the things that happen to us that’s important. It is not the things themselves. It’s there that we come back to us being responsible for our happiness, our sadness, our ups and our downs; we can choose to respond positively or negatively, blame or take responsibility, stand still or move forwards – we have a choice. I made a decision to believe and to have hope and confidence in myself and my resilience to grow stronger through the good times and the bad. We all have this choice, it’s not rocket science but it is common sense. Not everyone will agree with me and that’s ok, because I probably won’t agree with them either which is the great thing about life: we all have the ability to choose.