You can do It.

I believe that anything is possible if we truly believe in it. I have known, met and followed some amazing people over my years that have transformed their lives when everything except their own self-belief was against them. They believed that they could achieve their goals and dreams. All it took was courage and a mindset that they could do it, and that’s achievable to everyone. If you can do just one little thing, it should be to never give up. 

Whenever we start anything new, it’s always a little nerve-wracking – and that’s only natural; no matter who you are. Everyone gets nervous, it’s how you learn to react to that emotion that can determine a positive or negative outcome. As a performer and entertainer of 25 years I still get nervous, but I’ve learned to use that nervous energy to help me with my performance. If we prepare ourselves and have everything in place to do the task in hand, then there is no reason for things not to work out as planned, so I’ve learned to channel my nervous energy into my confidence. I know what you’re saying: “that’s easy for you to say”, but it’s not as difficult as it sounds. With practice and self-belief we can learn to control our emotions to help us in all aspects of our lives. Along with emotions, we have our mindset that can get in the way. Our mind is a difficult maze to manoeuvre around but with practice, we can alter our negative thoughts into more positive and better serving ones. 

Whatever your dream or goals may be, if someone else has achieved it then so can you. The only difference between you and them is that they didn’t give up, they believed they could do it, they prepared for it and they did it. I believe that you can do it too. Thank you for taking time to read this post, if you need advice or guidance then please feel free to get in touch. 

Have a most amazing day and remember, you are worth it.

Geraint Rhys Benney

Who Cares

I’ve always thought of myself as a person who doesn’t really care about what people’s opinions of me are. It’s come to my attention in the last few months that I do care and it’s been a big part of my lack of progression. Over the last 5 years, my opinions and beliefs about how the world works have changed a great deal, and even though my new beliefs serve me far better than my old ones did, I’m keeping them at arms length when it comes to dealing with my friends and family. So I need to ask my self a big question: am I ashamed of my new beliefs?
Ashamed may be the wrong word, but I am holding back how I feel and what it is that I hope to achieve in the future. I am a different person to who I was 5 years ago and I believe I have grown in so many ways, but I am still holding back from embracing my new life in fear of being misunderstood. I know that my friends and family think I’m a little off the wall anyway, so adding to my strangeness shouldn’t really make a difference – after all, they have all stuck by me this far. I don’t believe my new beliefs are strange or off the wall, I think they make more sense than my old ones did and they give me more inner peace, so I need to toughen up a bit and wear them with pride. They belong to me and I believe in them with every inch of my being. No more keeping quiet, no more making excuses or holding back. I have to stand tall and live with no fear of misunderstandings or mockery; if people don’t understand then I’ll explain, and if they still don’t understand then that’s their problem, not mine.

You Lift Me Up

It’s been a long time since I’ve written a blog and I feel like I should at least come and say hello and let you know that I haven’t stopped my journey of self-awakening and discovery. I’m still here. The last 12 months have been a difficult yet enlightening experience for me and it has kind of derailed me a little, but I feel as if I’m now on my way to getting back on track. Change is difficult and so is accepting that you need to change in more ways than you expected or wanted. When we go on a new journey, it’s good to prepare ourselves for what’s ahead of us and this is hard, because how can we prepare for the unknown? I knew that there would be bumps in the road but I hadn’t really thought about how I’d react when I came across them. I’ll be honest; I genuinely thought that I’d approach at a steady speed and I’d glide over them with ease, but I hadn’t figured how big these bumps could get and how much damage they could cause if hit too fast. So after going in to the garage and having a service and some repairs to the body work, I feel as If it’s time I got back on the road again – but this time it’s with lessons learned and a better understanding of not only myself, but of the world we live in. When I first started, I was full of excitement and hope of what was ahead of me, and I still am, but this time around I’m approaching it with more respect than before – and when I say respect, I really mean respect. The one thing I’ve learned is that I’m not always right and that being honest is the only way to truly be, because nobody knows everything – in fact, we all know very little, yet we hold on to our opinions and beliefs as though they were gospel. My friends, let me enlighten you: they are not! And that can be a tough pill to swallow, even for the most open-minded of us, and if you are honest with yourself then you’ll agree. Anyway, onwards and upwards from this day forward, know when to slow down and recharge the batteries and be willing to compromise if the road ahead is blocked or impassable. Thanks for taking time out and reading my rambling, please come back and keep in touch with my growth.

Geraint Rhys Benney 

A Clean Slate

It’s been some time since I last wrote a blog, and a lot has happened between then and now. Ill health, a loss of motivation a loss in finances and even questioning my own faith all of witch I’m now happy to say seem to be behind me. But I believe it’s only natural to question what life throws at us especially when everything comes together, it’s what makes us stronger as a person. Next week I start a new chapter in my life with a new job and career, I’m a little nervous and excited at the same time about what’s ahead of me, I have totally changed direction and this road now seams to be one that’s more rewarding and hopefully less stressful than before. I’m still coaching and teaching mindfulness and will always continue to do so as long as I have clients who come to me for guidance and help, its ingrained in my soul to do so, But I have given all my other jobs up to concentrate on my wellbeing and spending more time with my family and friends. It may have been a difficult last few years but it has taught me many lessons to that I won’t forget in a hurry. I have a number of blogs and subjects in mind to write about over the next few months I hope you will be here to read them and that they help you like they have helped me.

Thank you for always being there


The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney