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The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

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Life as a Cat Audio

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Strive to Be

I get asked why I do what I do, and what I get out of it quite often; when I get asked this question I feel proud to answer. I do what I do because I choose to. I choose to live a happy, fulfilled life on my terms because I have the self-belief that what I do is the right thing to do. What I get out of it is self-fulfilment. I have the ability to make a difference in the world, it’s who I am, it’s what makes me feel alive, it’s my passion. There are no excuses or barriers: if we want something hard enough we will fight until our last breath to achieve it. If I can inspire, help or bring positivity and hope to one person each day, then I have achieved what I have set out to do. I strive to make a difference, to give hope and show that everyone – and I mean everyone – can become and achieve whatever they set their mind on. Life is a maze and we can easily get lost within it, but we are not alone, and if we don’t panic and don’t let doubt set in, we can follow in the footsteps of the people who came before us. We can create a clearer path for those who are to follow. I started Byw as a tool for self-improvement. My initial plan was for me to use it to help myself overcome problems and sculpt a better existence( one where I choose how I experience life, and I choose to be positive. Byw has grown – and is still growing – into something more than I could have imagined. It’s given me a platform to share what I have learned with the world and the world has responded with gratitude and appreciation. Admittedly, I still have a lot to learn and a long way to travel before I reach my destination, but I know that along the way I get to be part of something amazing. If I’m able to share the amazing things then I will, I strive to be, so you can too.

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We are not alone 

Over the last few months I have given a number of talks on mindfulness and the law of attraction, and how they can transform our lives along with our self-belief. I explain how we can – with these tools – make a life that’s far more rewarding and satisfying by sculpting life on our own terms. After talking with colleagues and participants of my talks, I decided to start a mindfulness self-help group where participants share their mindful practices with each other, learning – as a group – how to share their experiences. Building a community of like-minded people is a quest that is worthwhile in my opinion. I have found over the time I have been practicing mindfulness that it’s not just a personal thing, mindfulness can be a topic that can have far reaching effects when used correctly; by bringing people together and talking about things with an open mind, with no expectations or bias. We all know that we live in a world full of chaos, but it’s nice to know that we also live in a world of compassion and understanding. It’s nice to know that there are others out there who think the same as us, and want to take action in making it a better world by trying to make positive change – starting with ourselves. We are all in existence together, we all have different outlooks and opinions, but we all know good from bad, what’s right and what’s wrong, and if we can build more mindful communities then maybe, just maybe we can alter the negative manifesto that is currently the norm. My group is still in its early stages but I have big expectations for its growth in the future months – only time will tell. On a personal level the last year has been a magnificent journey of enlightenment and self-growth. My eyes have been opened and my understanding of how my ‘self’ and life work together has changed positively. I am life and life is me: it’s how we interact with one another that’s important. If I can pass on any message of hope to anyone out there who feels lost and alone, then that message is, “you are not alone”. Nobody needs to be alone. We may have to change, we may have to alter our beliefs, we may have to admit we were wrong, but we never need be alone. 

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Life as a Cat

This morning, I sat and just stared at my cat as he lay there sleeping after a hardy meal. I started to imagine what his life is like, how does he see the world? I know he’s a very independent being who likes his own way and isn’t afraid to show his disapproval of anything he dislikes, but he’s also very loving when he wants to be. He’s fed, watered, has a roof over his head and he comes and goes as he pleases, in fact, he’s very similar to my son. As life goes he’s got it pretty easy – the cat that is, not my son. No bills to pay, no responsibilities, and he gets to bring home birds whenever he wants. In all seriousness, I started to wonder if I wanted to live his life. Not that I want to bring birds home, no, no, I’m a happily taken thank you. What I mean is the freedom of living. It’s a question that really made me think. Yes, to live a life of total freedom sounds amazing, but let’s really think about it. Taking no responsibility for anything can have damaging effects on our psyche, it can take away our choices, our chance to learn, even our ability to love. Responsibility is what separates us from animals; as humans we have the responsibility to not only look after ourselves but each other. I know my cat doesn’t care about me, all he cares about is me feeding him. I know he visits other homes around me also to be fed, he has other options and I am under no illusion that he is affectionate with others – not just with me – and I’m ok with that because that’s the freedom of being a cat and that’s what he is: a cat. Who am I to judge? I wonder, is there a false illusion of freedom and what it can bring in the world? Has it lost its meaning? Freedom of living a free life shouldn’t be about freedom to do what we want, it should be about freedom of the soul. The only true way of being free is from within; when we find inner freedom and peace, everything else kind of falls into place – our appreciation of life, our ability to love and a belief in ourselves. I don’t think we as humans are ready for the kind of freedom that my cat has, not until we learn to appreciate the freedoms we already hold within us. Freedom is supposed to be about feeling free, and as humans we can’t agree to disagree on anything, we have to prove we are right about everything. We are sometimes more animal than animals, and maybe we as humans are not the species who have evolved, maybe it’s my cat and his fellow animals. Maybe they have evolved to the point of inner and outer freedom, maybe my cat does take responsibility; who am I to say who’s responsible and who’s not? Maybe, just maybe, we are the ones who are the primitive species in this universe and if so, its time we stared thinking instead of just acting.Not one of my usual blogs I’ll admit, but I thought it was one I had to write. When we are looking for answers we tend to look outwards for the questions, when we should be looking within. I truly believe that happiness comes from within and when we become comfortable with ourselves and let go of our insecurities and fears, that’s when we become totally free. Freedom isn’t about doing as we please; freedom is about having the ability to dream and then have the belief to live those dreams.
Geraint Rhys Benney