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Respect Yourself.

How many times have you convinced yourself of something that is untrue? We have all done it at some point in our lives, instead of talking out a situation with the people involved we tend to make up our own minds with half truths and speculation only to find out later that we are in the wrong about everything that we had imagined and instead of admitting we were wrong we stick our heads in the sand and overthink even more. Our imagination can be our best friend as well as our worst enemy and it’s up to us to keep it under control by not over thinking things and by sorting out whatever the issues are. We owe it to ourselves to be honest and to know and find out the truth. Respecting your self as Well as others around you can and will bring you a happier and healthier life, it truly is up to you.

Geraint Rhys Benney

Life and Spiritual Coach

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The name of the game.

Life, life, life what’s it all about?

If you don’t ask this to your self on a regular basis you are doing yourself a disservice. Be it when life is tough or even when life is going well, we should all be asking ourselves what is the life we are living all about.

I believe the name of the game to living a life to its full potential, is by not getting comfortable doing so. I’ll explain, when we stop asking ourselves what life is about we become disconnected from the flow of life it’s self. I’ve written before about the good and the bad sides of having a comfort zone and I don’t want to go over old ground but it’s important that we remember that a comfort zone is a nice place to visit, but nothing ever grows there.

Do please ask yourself what are you doing with your life, if you are happy with the answer that you honestly give yourself then crack on, you are doing a fine job there keep up the good work, but if your not happy with your answers then it’s time to ask yourself what it would take to take you there, How hard are you willing to work on yourself so that changes start happening?. Life throws at us the most craziest of situations and distractions good and bad, that can take us away from what is important in the life that we are living and that’s us. You, me, as individuals we all count and it’s time that we all realised that we are worth the effort that we put in to improving ourselves, every night of lost sleep, every drop of sweat, every setback over come Is worth it. Even if at first you only manage to change enough to improve a little, that’s ok, because as long as you are a better version of yourself than you were yesterday and you keep believing in that person, well my friends, that’s the name of the game.

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Making sense of the chaos

I love the saying ‘making sense of the chaos’, I really do – because it’s a phrase that has been one of the driving forces of my self-development and growth. Can I make sense of the chaos around me and come out the other side in one piece and with a sane mind? Since starting my journey, how I perceive the world around me has changed and it’s given me an insight of the chaos and how I can use it to suit myself and my needs. We can sit back and believe that we have no power to make change or a difference in this crazy world, or we can stand up and decide to see through the madness and write our own story.

I have written about why we believe the things we do and how to change our beliefs to suit us and not our perceived reality, and I stand by every word I have written because changing my beliefs has helped me make sense of the chaos and given me the opportunity to have a better understanding of the world we live in. The truth is that nobody knows what they are doing; everybody is guessing because there is no guide book on how to live life. We are the authors of our own stories, we are the masters of our own destinies, and if we don’t stand up and give it our own narrative then it’s all too easy to fall in to the chaos that is life and become just another part of that story.

We have a choice: we can accept the world as it is or we can change it, it’s that simple. It’s not an easy task but it’s a task worth doing because the rewards are infinite. We are worth more than existing in uncertainty, fear, pain, suffering and all the other things that the chaos brings. We are infinite beings with the ability to achieve amazing things when we learn to believe in ourselves.

 

Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S.

Life and Spiritual Coach.

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Influence.

Not everything we believe to be true is true and not everything we believe to be untrue is an untrue, it all depends on perspective.

What influences you?

Who influences you?

Who do you influence?

I ask these questions because it’s important for us to realise the influences in our lives and how they dictate how we live.

At a young age we learn much about life from our parents, our grandparents, family members, teachers, books, TV, film the list goes on, growing up we have had our lives influenced by many people and things even into our adult lives without even knowing it, we have taken on many of there values and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong, true and false even real and fake and these beliefs and values even echo’s onto who we now influence.

As a coach, I talk with a lot of people that have trouble with living their lives because there belief systems clashes with how they live life and perceive it to be, leaving them unhappy, confused, torn, lost, alone and often depressed. My job is to help people understand that with adjustment to there values and beliefs through looking at why they believe the things they do and how they may not be true beliefs and they may not be serving them as they should be, we can then work together and find a clearer path that’s more rewarding mentally and spiritually for them, creating new values and beliefs along the way.

 

Every person is different and there is no one-way of changing a belief system to one that’s more relevant and truthful to the individual involved, its down to the individual them selves what they are willing to let go of and what they are open to learn that’s the biggest ask, because it can sometimes bring pain, loss, sorrow, doubt, regret and even fear before it brings strength, happiness, meaning, belonging, self value and love.

 

Changing our beliefs and values can change our lives in so many positive ways but its not easy, and having a coach supporting you, helping you, guiding you and most importantly believing in you throughout the bad as well as the good times, is an investment not only in your yourself but also in your future.

 

Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S. Life and Spiritual Coach

 

If you have found this blog helpful please leave a comment or you may feel that working with a coach is something you may be interested in please get in touch.

 

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Open your mind

What do people actually mean when they say open your mind”?
Aren’t our minds already open?
I believe what people are trying to say is, don’t be afraid to learn new things, question the status quo, be inquisitive and don’t take the first answer you get as a true one. It’s sometimes hard for us to comprehend our own beliefs at times without looking at new ones with an open and non-judgemental mind. When I set out on my road to discovery I thought I was knowledgeable and aware of the ways of the world, but in reality I didn’t have a clue. I wouldn’t even look at – never mind study – anything I thought as mumbo-jumbo or new age hippie stuff. I’d laugh or dismiss without a thought and I’m not ashamed to say that I was wrong. One thing I have learned is to never dismiss anything, no matter how crazy or different from your reality it may be, for it may be the thing that changes everything for you. Writing this now, I think back to when I started my journey and how little about the world we live in i actually knew, and even though I have learned so much since, I have only just scratched the surface of it all and I’m looking forward to learning as much as I can to share it with anyone who is open-minded enough to listen.


Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S. Life & Spiritual Coach.