Why Mindful-Attraction? Why combine mindfulness and the law of attraction? What a good question if I do say so myself, so I shall tell you. Having mindfulness in our lives has all its own benefits for self-improvement, and it’s commonly practiced around the world with astounding results. The Law of Attraction (as its commonly called) – if practiced with a mindful mind – can change not only how we look at the world, but also how we view ourselves. I don’t need to explain how they both work as I have done so many times in past blogs, all you need do is take a look. But what I will explain is why I teach them as one entity. I believe everyone has the right to live a happy life, a life of hope and prosperity, and I also believe that Mindful-Attraction can offer us this opportunity. Life can be hard, we have never been given a rule book on how to live it, some of us have learn how to deal with it and there are some that have found it a hard slog: I put myself in this category. I once believed that life was out to get me, that it was in control of me, that I was at its mercy, and I’m not ashamed to say it: I was wrong. I was wrong. Mindfulness gave me the courage and belief in my self, it taught me that life is not out to get me and that I was in control of my thoughts and not them in control of me. The law of attraction has given me an open door to my future, the law of attraction has given me a belief that I can – if I truly want something, I can achieve it. With hard work and vision anything is possible. I understand that what you have just read is hard to take in, but what have you got to lose in trying? Anything worth having never comes easily, we have to work hard at it if we are to be successful and the best thing we can work on is ourselves. The reason I teach Mindful-Attraction is because I want to share “It” with you. You deserve to know what you are capable of achieving. “It” is you and you are “It”, and if you need “it”, it’s always there for you. The only thing we need to do to learn, is to believe in “It”. I believe in you, you should too.
Statuses
One to One
Group learning is great, it helps us realise that we are not alone, there are others out there who feel the same as us and we can share experiences and techniques with one another – helping each other, supporting each other in reaching our goals. Whereas one-to-one is a far more personal setting that offers an in-depth look at our past, our present and our future. Opening up to the reality of who we are and who we are capable of becoming. We are all looking for something different, we all have different needs and dreams and fears. In one-to-one everything we discuss is private and confidential, nothing will be discussed outside of a session. What you decide to disclose will be considered private and kept this way at all times. Mindful-attraction has the ability to change you, it -alongside a clear goal – can transform everything around you for the good. I don’t believe in failure, I believe that we learn, I believe that life is about responsibility and that when we open up to ourselves, then life will open up with us. If you are interested in working one-to-one, or have any questions, please feel free to contact me at any time.
Imagine
Imagine that you woke up tomorrow morning and you find out that everything you wish for had come true. You are Bruce Almighty. Imagine it, and consider – what would you do? Remember that everything you wish for has consequences, so if you wish for world peace it could cause an economic effect in many countries. The same goes for solving hunger. We would have to start off carefully with kid gloves; it’s a big responsibility to have the power of creation in the palm of your hands, but with this power you could have the life of your dreams. So how about for safety reasons we say that as a beginner we have to kind of earn the respect of the power, by showing it that we are prepared. The choices we make can be made with a clear and decisive mind, without prejudice and with an honest soul.Believing that you now have this power what do you do?How do you start? What do you wish for?
Interesting isn’t it, having that kind of opportunity laid in front of you? Every choice you now make has consequences – good and bad – that could affect the world around you. Would you be willing to make sacrifices, take responsibility, become a better you to hold this power? Would you take it seriously enough and give it the time it takes to learn how to use it with skill?
Well, imagine again that I tell you that you hold that power already…you, yes you. Hear me out, I’m being serious for once. I can’t think of a better way of explaining The Law of Attraction than how I just did. The life we lead is determined by the choices we make, this is a true fact whether we want to believe it or not and it works whether you believe in it or not. But by taking responsibility for our actions and choices we can shape a future of amazing possibilities. The proof is out there, I’m not going to rabbit on about it, I don’t need to – all you have to do is try it for yourself. Start off small and grow big – one thing at a time – and I promise I won’t say I told you so. You can stop imagining now, it’s time to start believing.
Does it take long
When we begin anything new we usually have the tendency to jump in head first and try and do as much as possible, wanting to see results straight away. Unfortunately, mindfulness is a process that takes time and has no quick fix or short cuts. We get the best results with mindfulness when we are mindful. Attention and experience are the only ways forward; being in a mindful state is a liberating experience and worth the time spent practising all aspects of it.
What we gain.
Sustainable attention
Direct attention
Opens us to new experiences
Helps us accept
Helps let go
Mindfulness has the ability – if given the opportunity – to give us a life under our terms and a life of choice.
Rome wasn’t built in a day, and anything that’s worth doing is worth doing correctly: we only cheat ourselves by not doing so.
How
I am often asked if I really believe in the law of attraction; does it work? Isn’t it just another fad? And if it works, how?? The answer I always give is yes, it does work, I have witnessed it and use it myself, how it works I have no clue, I’m just happy it works for me. I believe in it 150%, without question or doubt. I’m not here to convince you, you have to take my word on it. Why and how are the usual responses I receive back and that’s expected – I suppose it’s the same response I gave when I first discovered the Law of Attraction. I thought that a concept so simple must have a catch to it, it can’t be true. But as I discovered through research and practice, it is true, it is real and it’s free to anyone who wants to use it. In fact, we have been using it since birth without even knowing about it. The difference now is that we know it’s there and that we have the ability to work alongside it and use it to improve our lives, to sculpt a life more fitting to what we have always dreamt about. I don’t expect you to take my word, why should you? I want you to go and do your own research – it’s all out there if you are willing to look and open your mind to something truly magical. The Law of Attraction is as real as you and me: it’s time to start believing in it like it believes in you.
We Have to Believe
Hi everyone, thanks so much for taking time out to visit Byw, hopefully it’s going to be a visit worth taking. Over the last few weeks I have been working on my talk and workshop and have neglected my blog a little, and I apologise for not being around but I’m back and full of excitement for the months to come. If somebody had told me 2 and a half years ago when I stared my journey that I would now be teaching and helping others with the skills I had acquired, I’d have thought they were mad, but here I am: a living testimony of what is possible with faith and self-belief. Life throws so much at us without mercy, and if we are unprepared it can make the strongest of character break. I’m not saying what I teach will change your life – only you can do that. Mindful-Attraction can however, give you the mindset to a more balanced, focused and happier life. Before we start anything we have to believe we are going to finish it or what’s the point of even starting? It’s common sense, right? So before we even start sitting down to attempt mindful-attraction, we have to believe we can do it, because you can do it; anyone can do it – that’s the beauty of it. The only thing you need do is believe, not just in what you are doing, but also in you. You are the most important part of mindful-attraction, without you believing in you then there is no point starting. I have always been fairly confident, I can’t deny that, but it’s always come hand in hand with a deep nagging doubt that has been far more influential in my life. Since starting mindful-attraction my confidence has grown, my fear and doubt haven’t gone – no, no, they are still there, but now I manage them rather than them managing me. I’m far from perfect – who is? – but what I am is a human being, just like you, and if I can do it so can you. All you need do to start is open your mind and believe: anything really is possible.
The Next Step
Moving forward, taking the next step to fulfilling our goals can be a little overwhelming, if not down right scary, and its natural to feel this way – it’s all part of stepping into the unknown. It’s our defence system kicking in. If we feel able or competent in what we do then there shouldn’t be any reason why we can’t move forward and grow without any fuss or hassle – as long as we are always willing to keep learning along the way. Recently giving my first workshop and talk has given me a refreshed quest to share the skills and techniques that I have learned and found helpful and effective. For a first time giving a talk and basic workshop I was unsurprisingly nervous – and I think it showed slightly – but thankfully I was treated kindly by the friendly participants. It went much better than I expected but still needs work on presentation and structure. Understanding that improvement happens with practice and I am already planning my next few sessions in the next month or so, taking along the lessons I learned from the first; structure being the main lesson. I look forward to meeting you all sometime in the future at one of my talks and remember: each step we make and each move forward is making us stronger and more capable as long as we are willing to keep an open mind and keep learning.
Mindful-Attraction workshop
Mindful Music
I love listening to music; all kinds from pop to classical, rock to opera- I have no prejudice, if it’s a good song or track then it’s on my playlist. Shuffle can be amusing or annoying depending on who you ask. Anyway, the reason I’m talking about music is because music has the ability to heal, the ability change our mood, the ability to motivate. Music can be – and is – a powerful tool for self-help when used mindfully. We all have a song that reminds us of a time, a place, a situation: they can make us sad as well as happy, emotional or ecstatic. Music can literally touch our soul. Mindful music isn’t just restricted to dolphins singing or pan pipes – we can use any music to be mindful, although hardcore death metal I haven’t quite mastered. It’s easier to start with a song you are familiar with, obviously something that’s an easy listen. Get your headphones on, plug in and sit back, and before you start make sure you are nice and comfortable. OK, ready? Take a few deep breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth, keeping your breathing steady throughout the experience and it’s time to press play and begin. The real trick here isn’t actually listening to the song or track, but to actually feel it. This is why using headphones is helpful as it’s just you and the music; loose yourself in it – please give it a try. I use this method often, it’s one that can help if you are constantly in a busy environment. It helps you step away for a few minutes or so. So go on then, give it a try let and me know how you get on. Allow yourself to explore every aspect of the track. Give your full attention, give yourself permission to climb inside the track and dance along with the sound waves. The idea is to simply listen and feel it, to become fully entwined with the composition without any kind of judgment of the lyrics, genre, artist, instruments or language. Please enjoy.
Hard Work
Take a deep breath, close your eyes and imagine a life where you have full control. Actually, not control, I don’t want to call it that; more like a life where you are in the driving seat, you have the choice to go anywhere you want, do whatever you dream, be whoever you want to be. Ultimately, a life with free-will. Are you there? Can you see it? Can you feel it? Can you smell it? Take in all the glory and warmth of fulfilment and achievement. Believe you are there, that it’s been foretold in the stars – this is who you are and what you will achieve. Believe in you and others will follow; give yourself the best gift by being the best version of you. Forgive yourself for the past and start living for the future. Ok, I know I can be a tad over-dramatic sometimes and it’s down to the fact that I am extremely passionate about what I talk about. I care about my life and the lives of the people around me, and would love nothing more than to see others have the same happiness I have inside me: that’s why I started Byw. I know a lot of my ideas may seem unusual and hard to grasp, and to be totally honest with you, it’s probably good for you to think this way. I want and expect people to question my theories as I want them to be taken seriously; I believe they deserve to be. I’m not going to say that “mindful-attraction” (what i have come to call what I practice) will change your life because it won’t – that task is really down to you and how much you are willing to believe in yourself. What I am saying, is that alongside hard work and your own self-belief mindful-attraction can make that change.
Benney the Coach 