change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvement, shit happens, times they are a changing, Uncategorized, universe

The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvment, shit happens, times they are a changing, universe

Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvement, shit happens, times they are a changing, Uncategorized, universe

You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvement, shit happens, times they are a changing, Uncategorized, universe

Man in the Mirror

We walk past them everyday, mirrors, they seem to be everywhere we go these days. Even windows and doors act like them – we and everyone and everything around us is reflected back non-stop, but do we ever stop and look? We are so busy running around we don’t notice the ‘other us’ running around with us – we just take it for granted that they’re always there. When was the last time you stopped and had a conversation with the other you? I’m talking about you standing in front of a mirror and (seemingly) having a conversation with yourself or just acknowledging who’s there? What, never? Surely you’ve been stood in front of a mirror brushing your teeth and looked up and given yourself a smile, or looked in a mirror when trying on a new outfit, telling yourself you look good? Of course you have, we have all done it, so why not take it one step further and talk to them? Self-recognition is something we like to stay away from as humans, it’s easier to be what we think other people expect us to be, rather than who we really are, and by doing so we lose something precious, and that’s the ability to do what’s good for us. Whenever I have a big dilemma, whenever I need advice from someone who knows me best, I go to the mirror – preferably a large one so I can see as much of me and my surroundings as possible – and I talk. I stare at myself and let rip, whatever my issue, I let it all out and all the while staring in to that mirror. I’ve shouted, I’ve screamed, I’ve cried, I’ve let out every emotion possible all directed at myself, and by doing this I have seen myself at my lowest and I can tell you now, it works. If we think we live in a world that needs changing then we need to look at ourselves and start there. The person in the mirror is the person that not only knows you best, but are the only real people you can truly trust to ask the important questions that need answering. Get to know yourself better, strip right down to the bare essentials, rip yourself apart then put yourself back together again. It works, it really does; we have to be totally honest with ourselves when we do this or there is no point in trying, after all, you’ll only be lying to yourself and that’s just stupid. I use mirror therapy as part of the mindful-attraction one-to-one life improvement course, and I believe it’s one of the best tools that I use. It can be done alone at home with written instructions or can be done with guidance from me. It’s liberating, it’s eye-opening, it’s mind-changing. It’s You. We have everything within us to solve the questions we want answering about ourselves, all we need is a little bit of courage to face ourselves. If you want to know more about mirror therapy and Mindful-Attraction then please get in touch, and please remember all consultations are free.

Geraint Rhys Benney

change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvement, shit happens, times they are a changing, universe

Heal the World 

I spend a lot of time studying people; how they tick, their habits, wondering why they are like they are. I see people everyday who I know, without doubt, could do with Mindful-Attraction in their lives, but how do you tell someone that you think they may need help? I used to talk to people about Mindful-Attraction, but you can’t explain something to someone if they don’t really listen. The theory behind Mindful-Attraction isn’t rocket-science, it’s the simplest concept you could ask for: ‘we are what we think’. I don’t want to push any kind of different way of doing things unless someone actually says they want change in their lives and are looking for a miracle – but as I have found, people are happier to stay as they are if change is involved. I’m not saying Mindful-Attraction is miraculous, but what I am saying is that it can change our lives if we follow its basic principles. Mindful-Attraction has changed my life, truly it has, I’m not – and neither is my life – perfect and I still have a lot of learning and experience to gain, but it has given me more than I ever expected it to in such a short space of time. I want to talk to people who want change, who truly want change and not just talk about change. I have heard every excuse there is on why people can’t change, its very rare to meet people who have passion to change. And if Mindful-Attraction is to work then passion in what you want to achieve is just as important as the belief in it. We can all change, we can all adapt, we are humans and it’s how we have evolved to be the dominant species on the planet. It was all achieved through passion and belief that we could do it, so why have we as a race, lost our belief in our own achievement? I have a theory, but it’s long and boring so I’ll leave that for another day – what’s more important is how we can change it and I believe Mindful-Attraction can be not the answer, but at least a step forward in thinking. We all have questions; it’s time we started asking them and not always taking the first answer as the right one. By opening our minds and senses it’s surprising what we get to experience and achieve. Being willing to change our outlook, we can surprise ourselves with what we are capable of achieving. With dedication and direction there is no reason we can’t live lives on our terms, lives with happiness and fulfilment. The only thing stopping us is us.

change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvement, shit happens, times they are a changing, Uncategorized, universe

Does it take long

When we begin anything new we usually have the tendency to jump in head first and try and do as much as possible, wanting to see results straight away. Unfortunately, mindfulness is a process that takes time and has no quick fix or short cuts. We get the best results with mindfulness when we are mindful. Attention and experience are the only ways forward; being in a mindful state is a liberating experience and worth the time spent practising all aspects of it.
What we gain.

Sustainable attention 

Direct attention 

Opens us to new experiences 

Helps us accept 

Helps let go
Mindfulness has the ability – if given the opportunity – to give us a life under our terms and a life of choice. 

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and anything that’s worth doing is worth doing correctly: we only cheat ourselves by not doing so.

change, faith, Guru, Hope, law of attraction, life, life coaching, Life coaching, Mentoring, opportunities, personal growth, self improvement, shit happens, times they are a changing, Uncategorized, universe

We Have to Believe 

Hi everyone, thanks so much for taking time out to visit Byw, hopefully it’s going to be a visit worth taking. Over the last few weeks I have been working on my talk and workshop and have neglected my blog a little, and I apologise for not being around but I’m back and full of excitement for the months to come. If somebody had told me 2 and a half years ago when I stared my journey that I would now be teaching and helping others with the skills I had acquired, I’d have thought they were mad, but here I am: a living testimony of what is possible with faith and self-belief. Life throws so much at us without mercy, and if we are unprepared it can make the strongest of character break. I’m not saying what I teach will change your life – only you can do that. Mindful-Attraction can however, give you the mindset to a more balanced, focused and happier life. Before we start anything we have to believe we are going to finish it or what’s the point of even starting? It’s common sense, right? So before we even start sitting down to attempt mindful-attraction, we have to believe we can do it, because you can do it; anyone can do it – that’s the beauty of it. The only thing you need do is believe, not just in what you are doing, but also in you. You are the most important part of mindful-attraction, without you believing in you then there is no point starting. I have always been fairly confident, I can’t deny that, but it’s always come hand in hand with a deep nagging doubt that has been far more influential in my life. Since starting mindful-attraction my confidence has grown, my fear and doubt haven’t gone – no, no, they are still there, but now I manage them rather than them managing me. I’m far from perfect – who is? – but what I am is a human being, just like you, and if I can do it so can you. All you need do to start is open your mind and believe: anything really is possible.