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The power of kindness

As i Navigate through life, I’ve encountered my fair share of unkind words and actions. It’s tempting to react with anger, but over the years, I’ve embraced a different approach—one that involves responding with humility and positivity.

In a world where offense seems to lurk around every corner, I’ve come to realize that choosing kindness over anger can be a transformative experience. If I allow every unkind remark to dictate my emotions, I’d be stuck in a perpetual cycle of frustration. However, responding to them with grace not only catches others off guard but also leaves me feeling more satisfied and cultivates a happier mood.

Yet, there’s another layer to this practice of kindness. Consider this, just because the other individual may be having a hard day, responding with kindness becomes not only a gift to yourself but also a lifeline for the other person. In the face of their struggles, your positive response becomes a beacon of light, offering solace in a moment of darkness.

In the landscape of spiritual coaching and therapy, the healing power of kindness cannot be underestimated. Choosing humility over anger becomes a conscious decision to break the cycle of negativity. It’s an opportunity for personal growth and a chance to extend empathy to those who may be struggling.

So, the next time you find yourself on the receiving end of unkind words, remember that responding with kindness is not just about protecting your inner peace; it’s about extending a compassionate hand to someone who may be in desperate need of it. In this dance of emotions, choose the steps of kindness, for they lead to a more fulfilling and harmonious existence for both yourself and others.

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Reinventing your awesome self!

Reinventing Your Awesome Self!

Hello, my fellow seekers of personal growth! Today, let’s embark on a thrilling adventure towards reinventing ourselves in a personality sense.

Just like the awesomeness of a butterfly emerging from its cocoon, you too can uncurl your wings of self-awareness, self-improvement, and self-reflection and learn to fly. But don’t worry, there’s no need for a full-on butterfly costume! That’s going a bit overboard, but what we will do is explore the exhilarating path of growth with encouragement, all with a dash of my quirky personality and humour. If that sounds ok then let us begin.

The Mirror of Self-Reflection

Picture this: you stand in front of the mirror of self-reflection, armed with a magnifying glass of honesty. Take a good look at your self, not just at your outward appearance, but deep within yourself. It’s time to meet the real you, your quirks, your strengths, and yes, even your unusual dance moves when no one’s watching, they all matter.

Let’s scrutinise ourselves like the judges on one of them Tv talent show. It’s time to Embrace your imperfections like badges of honour and wear them with pride, it’s proof that you’re human, wonderfully flawed, and beautifully unique. Remember, even Picasso’s paintings had their funky angles, and look how famous they turned out to be! Who would have guessed? Well he did.

Embrace the Ch-Ch-Changes!

The winds of change are blowing, and it’s time to get out out kites and ride it’s wave! Reinventing yourself isn’t about erasing the past or turning your life into a reality show makeover episode, far from it, It’s about a journey of evolution, where every twist and turn leads to personal growth and new discoveries.

Think of it as redecorating the mansion of your soul, one section at a time. Embrace change with a smile, and soon, you’ll find that the walls of self-limitation crumble, making way for the vibrant structure of empowerment that you can be proud to share with the world.

The Adventure of Self-Awareness

Now then let’s take a look at self-awareness, the treasure map that guides us through the labyrinth of our emotions, thoughts, and desires. It’s like an Indiana Jones epic quest, uncovering hidden gems within ourselves. But let’s be real; there might be a few “here be dragons” moments along the way. But fear not! as they say, the dragons are friendly once you get to know them, and when tamed can be amazing companions.

With a pinch of humor and a splash of curiosity, embark on this self-awareness adventure with self belief, Embracing the bits that make you, you, and celebrate your idiosyncrasies as magical ingredients that compose the whimsical symphony of your personality.

“ I think I swallowed a dictionary then”

Cultivate a Garden of Encouragement

In the garden of self-discovery, surround yourself with supportive flowers of encouragement. Let’s water each other’s dreams, fertilize each other’s aspirations, and bask in the sunshine of positive vibes.

The more we uplift and celebrate each other’s journeys, the more our collective gardens of growth and thrive. So, spread kindness like confetti, and watch your fresh individual new personalities blossoms and transform into a vibrant bouquet of human potential.

As we bid farewell to our old caterpillar selves, we emerge from the chrysalis of self-discovery as magnificent butterflies of self-awareness. The journey towards reinventing ourselves in a personality sense is not a solitary one but a beautiful symphony of encouragement, guidance, and humor.

Embrace your quirks, laugh at life’s surprises, and above all, cherish the wonderful process of growth. And remember, you’re already a masterpiece and reinvention is merely adding those delightful splashes of color that make you uniquely and brilliantly you!

So spread your wings and soar to new heights of self-empowerment. The world awaits your vibrant colours, and together, we can all embark on this fantastic adventure we call life, filled with laughter, encouragement, and boundless possibilities

The Toolbox of Self-Improvement

As we embark on our self-reinvention quest, let’s pack a kitbag filled with tools of self-improvement. Patience wrench, check! Perseverance screwdriver, double-check! And, of course the magical sprinkler of laughter to water them seeds of positivity.

Let’s not forget that this kitbag isn’t just meant to help fix you like you would a leaky tap. It’s about embracing the journey of continuous growth. Remember you’re already fantastic, and this kitbag is merely an add-on to your tool belt of awesomeness!.

Let’s reinvent ourselves and celebrate the unique self we were always meant to be!

And while you’re doing it do it with a smile on your face.

Geraint Rhys Benney

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Influence.

Not everything we believe to be true is true and not everything we believe to be untrue is an untrue, it all depends on perspective.

What influences you?

Who influences you?

Who do you influence?

I ask these questions because it’s important for us to realise the influences in our lives and how they dictate how we live.

At a young age we learn much about life from our parents, our grandparents, family members, teachers, books, TV, film the list goes on, growing up we have had our lives influenced by many people and things even into our adult lives without even knowing it, we have taken on many of there values and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong, true and false even real and fake and these beliefs and values even echo’s onto who we now influence.

As a coach, I talk with a lot of people that have trouble with living their lives because there belief systems clashes with how they live life and perceive it to be, leaving them unhappy, confused, torn, lost, alone and often depressed. My job is to help people understand that with adjustment to there values and beliefs through looking at why they believe the things they do and how they may not be true beliefs and they may not be serving them as they should be, we can then work together and find a clearer path that’s more rewarding mentally and spiritually for them, creating new values and beliefs along the way.

 

Every person is different and there is no one-way of changing a belief system to one that’s more relevant and truthful to the individual involved, its down to the individual them selves what they are willing to let go of and what they are open to learn that’s the biggest ask, because it can sometimes bring pain, loss, sorrow, doubt, regret and even fear before it brings strength, happiness, meaning, belonging, self value and love.

 

Changing our beliefs and values can change our lives in so many positive ways but its not easy, and having a coach supporting you, helping you, guiding you and most importantly believing in you throughout the bad as well as the good times, is an investment not only in your yourself but also in your future.

 

Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S. Life and Spiritual Coach

 

If you have found this blog helpful please leave a comment or you may feel that working with a coach is something you may be interested in please get in touch.

 

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The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

Start with Hope

With all the current sadness in the world it’s hard to keep a positive mindset, it’s hard to be happy when all around us we see sorrow and anger from the barbaric events that seem to be occurring far too regularly. But, it’s at times like this we need hope: if we give in to hate then we have already lost. Fighting violence with violence only brings more violence. How can this be good for anyone? Don’t get me wrong, I’m no pacifist, if I need to fight to defend myself I’m more than capable of doing so, but I am also a humanist and I believe that all life is sacred – every human, every animal, every insect, every plant, every fish, every living microbe that lives on planet earth deserves its chance of living a full life. We are all connected, it’s a fact, we need one another to survive. I’m human; I get angry, I have said and done things I regret but I have learned to forgive not only other people, but myself for being unreasonable or pigheaded. Admitting we are wrong or ill-informed isn’t a show of weakness, it’s a show of strength; it shows we have the ability to adapt and become a better person. I’m not perfect and I realise nobody else is, and we all need to wake up to that fact we all make mistakes. It’s how we react or don’t react to the situations that define who we eventually become. There are bad people in this world who simply want us to be like them and live with hate and anger, but we have a choice, we get to choose our paths in life, although so many of us get lost, misguided: we end up following someone else’s path. Life isn’t easy but there is hope. We need a revolution on this planet. Not one of guns and bombs, but one of minds, and it begins with you and me. We don’t have to have great knowledge to know right from wrong or good from bad, they are simply concepts. The teachings of mindfulness in education instead of religious divide can free us of the biased misunderstanding of all mankind. Being mindful of ourselves will give us a better insight of someone else’s struggles. By us being more mindful of who we are, we get greater understanding of the struggles of life and it gives us the tools to deal with them in a more understanding ways. I’m not saying we can change the world with mindfulness, but we can change how we deal with what’s happening to it. We live in a world of distractions, a world full of confusion, and we have no time to do small things that won’t make any difference; besides, what can one person do? Well my friends, I have something to say; we all have a responsibility, not only to ourselves but also to the people around us, to make the world we live in a happy one. We have all heard of a Mexican wave yes? Well look at it this way – in a stadium full of a hundred thousand people, one person’s idea can unite every single person in there to follow a simple action, and when shown how easy it is to achieve it can become unstoppable. Well until your arms get tired anyway, but you get my drift. We all pass the buck, we all ask what we can do? Well we can all make a difference if we really want to. We can all make great changes together, we can transform not only our lives but the whole planet. We can all do this, it’s in all of our capabilities, it all comes down to choice. Make a difference or don’t make a difference, take responsibility or don’t take responsibility. I choose to at least try and I ask of you to do the same; together we can achieve great things. I want a world where my children and grandchildren and my great-grandchildren can grow up with hope in a world of understanding a world of harmony a world of unity. Thinking we can’t won’t get us there, thinking we can, can. Rome wasn’t built in a day or so they say, and starting a world wide consciousness revolution won’t happen quickly either, but we have to at least start something before we can achieve anything. Let’s start with hope.