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Who Cares

I’ve always thought of myself as a person who doesn’t really care about what people’s opinions of me are. It’s come to my attention in the last few months that I do care and it’s been a big part of my lack of progression. Over the last 5 years, my opinions and beliefs about how the world works have changed a great deal, and even though my new beliefs serve me far better than my old ones did, I’m keeping them at arms length when it comes to dealing with my friends and family. So I need to ask my self a big question: am I ashamed of my new beliefs?
Ashamed may be the wrong word, but I am holding back how I feel and what it is that I hope to achieve in the future. I am a different person to who I was 5 years ago and I believe I have grown in so many ways, but I am still holding back from embracing my new life in fear of being misunderstood. I know that my friends and family think I’m a little off the wall anyway, so adding to my strangeness shouldn’t really make a difference – after all, they have all stuck by me this far. I don’t believe my new beliefs are strange or off the wall, I think they make more sense than my old ones did and they give me more inner peace, so I need to toughen up a bit and wear them with pride. They belong to me and I believe in them with every inch of my being. No more keeping quiet, no more making excuses or holding back. I have to stand tall and live with no fear of misunderstandings or mockery; if people don’t understand then I’ll explain, and if they still don’t understand then that’s their problem, not mine.
Geraint 
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You Lift Me Up

It’s been a long time since I’ve written a blog and I feel like I should at least come and say hello and let you know that I haven’t stopped my journey of self-awakening and discovery. I’m still here. The last 12 months have been a difficult yet enlightening experience for me and it has kind of derailed me a little, but I feel as if I’m now on my way to getting back on track. Change is difficult and so is accepting that you need to change in more ways than you expected or wanted. When we go on a new journey, it’s good to prepare ourselves for what’s ahead of us and this is hard, because how can we prepare for the unknown? I knew that there would be bumps in the road but I hadn’t really thought about how I’d react when I came across them. I’ll be honest; I genuinely thought that I’d approach at a steady speed and I’d glide over them with ease, but I hadn’t figured how big these bumps could get and how much damage they could cause if hit too fast. So after going in to the garage and having a service and some repairs to the body work, I feel as If it’s time I got back on the road again – but this time it’s with lessons learned and a better understanding of not only myself, but of the world we live in. When I first started, I was full of excitement and hope of what was ahead of me, and I still am, but this time around I’m approaching it with more respect than before – and when I say respect, I really mean respect. The one thing I’ve learned is that I’m not always right and that being honest is the only way to truly be, because nobody knows everything – in fact, we all know very little, yet we hold on to our opinions and beliefs as though they were gospel. My friends, let me enlighten you: they are not! And that can be a tough pill to swallow, even for the most open-minded of us, and if you are honest with yourself then you’ll agree. Anyway, onwards and upwards from this day forward, know when to slow down and recharge the batteries and be willing to compromise if the road ahead is blocked or impassable. Thanks for taking time out and reading my rambling, please come back and keep in touch with my growth.

Geraint Rhys Benney 


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A Clean Slate

It’s been some time since I last wrote a blog, and a lot has happened between then and now. Ill health, a loss of motivation a loss in finances and even questioning my own faith all of witch I’m now happy to say seem to be behind me. But I believe it’s only natural to question what life throws at us especially when everything comes together, it’s what makes us stronger as a person. Next week I start a new chapter in my life with a new job and career, I’m a little nervous and excited at the same time about what’s ahead of me, I have totally changed direction and this road now seams to be one that’s more rewarding and hopefully less stressful than before. I’m still coaching and teaching mindfulness and will always continue to do so as long as I have clients who come to me for guidance and help, its ingrained in my soul to do so, But I have given all my other jobs up to concentrate on my wellbeing and spending more time with my family and friends. It may have been a difficult last few years but it has taught me many lessons to that I won’t forget in a hurry. I have a number of blogs and subjects in mind to write about over the next few months I hope you will be here to read them and that they help you like they have helped me.

Thank you for always being there

Geraint

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The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

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Making your Mind up

What is it you want in life? 
Success?
Love?
Happiness?
The list can go on forever, it can be hard to concentrate on one thing at a time and being this way could be holding us back from achieving what it is we really desire. We are confusing the universe. Imagine that someone asks you for something, then asks again minutes later for something very slightly different, and keeps doing this over and over again. It would be too confusing a wish to grant, yes? Life is confusing, nobody will argue with us there I’m sure, but life needn’t be impossible. We can have order in amongst the chaos. If we want to ask the universe for something, we need to give it clear and direct instructions of what we want, then we need to let it go; the more thought we give it afterwards, the bigger the chance of it not working out the way we want it to. Make your wish, say your prayer and trust in the power of the universe and its core inside of you to provide what you ask for.

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Act not React 

Have you heard of the saying ‘if it feels right then it probably is’? The same goes for the negative version of this. Some call it our sixth sense others, call it premonition, and I like to call it my spider sense. To be honest it doesn’t matter what we call it, it’s real and we can use it to our advantage. Now reading these senses is not as easy as we may think and sometimes we can get our wires crossed; instead of listening to what’s happening to us, we tend to jump to conclusions and create undesirable outcomes. Our brain is a complicated place and really does have a mind of its own, the subconscious mind that is. Now when we start getting these feelings, the subconscious mind automatically tries to predict the outcome from previous experiences – usually negative ones – and when this happens we need to say stop, take stock of what it is we are feeling and go with it. It’s us, not our subconscious that holds this power of perception. I like to think that I’m pretty good with using my senses but it hasn’t always been that way. I have been as guilty as anyone for letting my subconscious influence how I react and meditation has been my biggest help in overcoming this. Something of a gift. In fact, a gift is exactly what I see it as because it’s changed my life. Everyone that knows me knows I believe that our words and feelings have the potential to shape our lives, giving us the ability to achieve our end goals or simply live happy lives. I also believe that by being aware of our senses, we can also use them to create positivity. We can do this by guiding them in the right direction and feeding the senses with positive action rather than letting the subconscious act out its usual negative reaction. We can choose to act and not react when the moment happens, it’s a simple choice that we can make. Try it out and see how it makes you feel. Next time your spider senses start to tingle, take a deep breath, hold it for ten seconds whilst looking forward to something positive arriving in your life, then let go and get on with the rest of your day without giving it a thought for 24 hours. After that time have a think of all the positive things that came along and give them the gratitude they deserve. Thank you for taking time to read my blog and feel free to look over my previous publications. If you’re interested in anything you find helpful in my blogs please feel free to contact me.

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Fresh Starts 

So we are now in 2017, it’s the season of resolutions and fresh starts for many of us, but how many of us actually succeed in the goals that we set ourselves? We all have good intentions in wanting change to happen, but in reality we also fear the outcome. Sometimes we give ourselves unrealistic time limits that all too quickly come around without us achieving what we set out to achieve, which ultimately persuades us it’s better to give up. It’s hard starting a new project or program of change – no matter how big or small it may be – and putting limits on ourselves before we start is a recipe for disaster. When starting something new, no matter what it is, we need to begin slowly, learn as much as we can and study the people that have gone before us and see how they got what they wanted. We need to find out everything we can and be prepared to fail over and over again whilst still never giving up. Life is full of challenges that help us grow, and it’s having the ability to stay strong during these times that eventually leads us to where we want to be. Life is tough but so are we; we can be anything we choose to be, we can be whoever we choose to be. Life isn’t predestined, we get to choose each step of our journey and we have full control if we choose to use it.