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Influence.

Not everything we believe to be true is true and not everything we believe to be untrue is an untrue, it all depends on perspective.

What influences you?

Who influences you?

Who do you influence?

I ask these questions because it’s important for us to realise the influences in our lives and how they dictate how we live.

At a young age we learn much about life from our parents, our grandparents, family members, teachers, books, TV, film the list goes on, growing up we have had our lives influenced by many people and things even into our adult lives without even knowing it, we have taken on many of there values and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong, true and false even real and fake and these beliefs and values even echo’s onto who we now influence.

As a coach, I talk with a lot of people that have trouble with living their lives because there belief systems clashes with how they live life and perceive it to be, leaving them unhappy, confused, torn, lost, alone and often depressed. My job is to help people understand that with adjustment to there values and beliefs through looking at why they believe the things they do and how they may not be true beliefs and they may not be serving them as they should be, we can then work together and find a clearer path that’s more rewarding mentally and spiritually for them, creating new values and beliefs along the way.

 

Every person is different and there is no one-way of changing a belief system to one that’s more relevant and truthful to the individual involved, its down to the individual them selves what they are willing to let go of and what they are open to learn that’s the biggest ask, because it can sometimes bring pain, loss, sorrow, doubt, regret and even fear before it brings strength, happiness, meaning, belonging, self value and love.

 

Changing our beliefs and values can change our lives in so many positive ways but its not easy, and having a coach supporting you, helping you, guiding you and most importantly believing in you throughout the bad as well as the good times, is an investment not only in your yourself but also in your future.

 

Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S. Life and Spiritual Coach

 

If you have found this blog helpful please leave a comment or you may feel that working with a coach is something you may be interested in please get in touch.

 

grblifecoaching@gmail.com

 

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The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

Nobody knows the Truth

What is the meaning of life? Do we really know? For me it’s happiness, happiness for me and happiness for my family, happiness for my friends and almost everyone else there is on planet Earth. For you it could be something completely different; I don’t know what it is, only you can answer that question. We all search for the meaning whether we know it or not, it’s part of who we are. We are always looking, but few of us actually find it. “Why?” I hear you ask. Simple; we tend to look outwards and not inwards for something that has always been there since the day we were born. The meaning of life is coded into our DNA, and once we become in tune with who we are – through mindfulness and the practice of meditation – the answers to life’s questions become clearer. I believe if these methods were taught at school our children would grow up to become more understanding individuals, with the abilities to cope with life’s trials and tribulations, with the ability to know their strengths and excel in their chosen field. We have a duty to educate our future and that’s what our children are – they are our future. We have a duty to give them the best start in life, we have a duty to give them the ability to have a better life than us. If the human race is to progress and survive, it has to look at other methods of doing things without mocking them or passing them off as a fad. There is scientific proof that meditation and mindfulness is effective when practised from a young age, and it’s time – as responsible adults – we opened our eyes and minds, switch off our TVs and seriously considered the welfare of the world’s children. There are many meanings to life’s problems, but our problems start with us and it’s within us we must start looking. By using mindfulness, no matter what age we are – old or young, boy or girl – mindfulness will change our lives. It’s time to wrap it up for now, but if anything we have said has peeked your interest, please feel free to contact us here at Byw. Thank you so much for taking time to read my ramblings and I hope that you have an amazing day.