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Thank You.
I’d like to thank everyone that has taken time to visit my blog over the last few years and everyone who has supported and given me the belief that I can. I have been on a journey of not only discovery and awakening, but also one of learning and enlightenment. I have had many ups and just as many downs over this time, but throughout it all I have kept the belief that I would achieve what I set out to do: to live a more fulfilled life and to help as many people as I could along the way achieve the same. I recently attained my Life and Spiritual Coaching diplomas, making me an official accredited coach. It’s been my goal for the last few years to become a coach and here I am today doing exactly that. I know it’s a cliche when people say “who would have thought 10 years ago I’d be where I am today” but it’s true; ten years ago I was in a totally different place on a totally different journey and if you’d told me I’d be where I am now today I’d have called you crazy – but here I am. In 2013 my life fell apart and I felt I had nothing more to give and at one point no reason to live, but I was lucky to have an amazing support network around me that showed me love and hope and I began to find and believe in myself again. My story is my story and it’s made me the man I am today, but it’s in my past and I am now looking towards to the future and what I can achieve in the time I have left to do so. Helping people believe in themselves and show them that no matter how lost or insignificant they may feel, there is a way out of their situation and if they let me I can help them to move on and make real change in their lives. Nobody is beyond help or guidance – I truly believe that – and if I can help I will. The only thing that stops us doing so is our own unwillingness to forgive, move on and accept change. So this is where I am currently and I’d love it if you’d join me on the rest of my journey so together we can grow with belief, openness, respect and unity; not only to improve ourselves but support each other along the way.
Thank you for reading and I hope to see you all soon.
Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S. Life and Spiritual Coach.
Invest in Yourself.
Connection
The people we surround ourselves with can and do affect our moods and our lives. If the people we are associating ourselves with are negative then that negativity is going to rub off on us with great strength – but we can protect ourselves from that negative energy. The easiest way of protection is to stay as far away from these people as possible, but sometimes that is easier said than done; especially when it’s family. I get told to “stop being so bloody positive” on a regular basis and I answer, “no, you stop being so negative”. Negative thoughts and actions are hard to escape sometimes and I understand that my positive attitude can be annoying to others, but their negative attitude is far more disruptive to my day than my positivity is to theirs. I have had to lose friendships over peoples’ attitudes towards me and themselves, but it’s something I have had to do to move forward in my life. We all have an energy that runs though our body; a kind of magnetic force that not only attracts the energy of the people and situations we encounter, but this force can also repel said energy. It’s the understanding of how this energy works that can help us use the force for our own benefit. Regular meditation and a healthy lifestyle is a good start to keeping our energy on a steady flow, associating with like-minded positive people is another. It’s never too late or too early to ground ourselves and take stock of who we are and how we can live happier and more settled lives. For more information on how to work in harmony with yourself and the energy within, please get in touch
Life Through a Filter
You can do It.
I believe that anything is possible if we truly believe in it. I have known, met and followed some amazing people over my years that have transformed their lives when everything except their own self-belief was against them. They believed that they could achieve their goals and dreams. All it took was courage and a mindset that they could do it, and that’s achievable to everyone. If you can do just one little thing, it should be to never give up.
Whenever we start anything new, it’s always a little nerve-wracking – and that’s only natural; no matter who you are. Everyone gets nervous, it’s how you learn to react to that emotion that can determine a positive or negative outcome. As a performer and entertainer of 25 years I still get nervous, but I’ve learned to use that nervous energy to help me with my performance. If we prepare ourselves and have everything in place to do the task in hand, then there is no reason for things not to work out as planned, so I’ve learned to channel my nervous energy into my confidence. I know what you’re saying: “that’s easy for you to say”, but it’s not as difficult as it sounds. With practice and self-belief we can learn to control our emotions to help us in all aspects of our lives. Along with emotions, we have our mindset that can get in the way. Our mind is a difficult maze to manoeuvre around but with practice, we can alter our negative thoughts into more positive and better serving ones.
Whatever your dream or goals may be, if someone else has achieved it then so can you. The only difference between you and them is that they didn’t give up, they believed they could do it, they prepared for it and they did it. I believe that you can do it too. Thank you for taking time to read this post, if you need advice or guidance then please feel free to get in touch.
Have a most amazing day and remember, you are worth it.
Geraint Rhys Benney
Who Cares
I’ve always thought of myself as a person who doesn’t really care about what people’s opinions of me are. It’s come to my attention in the last few months that I do care and it’s been a big part of my lack of progression. Over the last 5 years, my opinions and beliefs about how the world works have changed a great deal, and even though my new beliefs serve me far better than my old ones did, I’m keeping them at arms length when it comes to dealing with my friends and family. So I need to ask my self a big question: am I ashamed of my new beliefs?
Ashamed may be the wrong word, but I am holding back how I feel and what it is that I hope to achieve in the future. I am a different person to who I was 5 years ago and I believe I have grown in so many ways, but I am still holding back from embracing my new life in fear of being misunderstood. I know that my friends and family think I’m a little off the wall anyway, so adding to my strangeness shouldn’t really make a difference – after all, they have all stuck by me this far. I don’t believe my new beliefs are strange or off the wall, I think they make more sense than my old ones did and they give me more inner peace, so I need to toughen up a bit and wear them with pride. They belong to me and I believe in them with every inch of my being. No more keeping quiet, no more making excuses or holding back. I have to stand tall and live with no fear of misunderstandings or mockery; if people don’t understand then I’ll explain, and if they still don’t understand then that’s their problem, not mine.
Geraint
You Lift Me Up
It’s been a long time since I’ve written a blog and I feel like I should at least come and say hello and let you know that I haven’t stopped my journey of self-awakening and discovery. I’m still here. The last 12 months have been a difficult yet enlightening experience for me and it has kind of derailed me a little, but I feel as if I’m now on my way to getting back on track. Change is difficult and so is accepting that you need to change in more ways than you expected or wanted. When we go on a new journey, it’s good to prepare ourselves for what’s ahead of us and this is hard, because how can we prepare for the unknown? I knew that there would be bumps in the road but I hadn’t really thought about how I’d react when I came across them. I’ll be honest; I genuinely thought that I’d approach at a steady speed and I’d glide over them with ease, but I hadn’t figured how big these bumps could get and how much damage they could cause if hit too fast. So after going in to the garage and having a service and some repairs to the body work, I feel as If it’s time I got back on the road again – but this time it’s with lessons learned and a better understanding of not only myself, but of the world we live in. When I first started, I was full of excitement and hope of what was ahead of me, and I still am, but this time around I’m approaching it with more respect than before – and when I say respect, I really mean respect. The one thing I’ve learned is that I’m not always right and that being honest is the only way to truly be, because nobody knows everything – in fact, we all know very little, yet we hold on to our opinions and beliefs as though they were gospel. My friends, let me enlighten you: they are not! And that can be a tough pill to swallow, even for the most open-minded of us, and if you are honest with yourself then you’ll agree. Anyway, onwards and upwards from this day forward, know when to slow down and recharge the batteries and be willing to compromise if the road ahead is blocked or impassable. Thanks for taking time out and reading my rambling, please come back and keep in touch with my growth.
Geraint Rhys Benney
A Clean Slate
It’s been some time since I last wrote a blog, and a lot has happened between then and now. Ill health, a loss of motivation a loss in finances and even questioning my own faith all of witch I’m now happy to say seem to be behind me. But I believe it’s only natural to question what life throws at us especially when everything comes together, it’s what makes us stronger as a person. Next week I start a new chapter in my life with a new job and career, I’m a little nervous and excited at the same time about what’s ahead of me, I have totally changed direction and this road now seams to be one that’s more rewarding and hopefully less stressful than before. I’m still coaching and teaching mindfulness and will always continue to do so as long as I have clients who come to me for guidance and help, its ingrained in my soul to do so, But I have given all my other jobs up to concentrate on my wellbeing and spending more time with my family and friends. It may have been a difficult last few years but it has taught me many lessons to that I won’t forget in a hurry. I have a number of blogs and subjects in mind to write about over the next few months I hope you will be here to read them and that they help you like they have helped me.
Thank you for always being there
Geraint 
The Choice
I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.
If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.
Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach
Founder of Byw
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