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The Ripple Effect of Kindness

Kindness is a simple yet powerful act that can transform not only the lives of others but also our own. It’s a universal language that transcends borders and cultures, and it’s something we can all practice, no matter our background or circumstances. In a world often marked by division and conflict, kindness is the antidote that can bridge gaps and create a more harmonious and compassionate society.

The Beauty of Small Gestures

Kindness doesn’t always require grandiose acts. In fact, it’s often the small, everyday gestures that have the most significant impact. A smile, a kind word, or a helping hand can brighten someone’s day and create a ripple effect of positivity. These acts are not only simple to perform but also contagious, inspiring others to be kind as well.

Benefits for the Giver

Kindness isn’t a one-way street; it benefits the giver just as much as the receiver. When we extend kindness to others, it releases feel-good hormones like oxytocin and reduces stress. It boosts our mood and overall well-being. It reminds us of our shared humanity, fostering a sense of connection and belonging in an increasingly disconnected world.

A Chain Reaction

Kindness has the power to set off a chain reaction. When someone experiences an act of kindness, they are more likely to pass it on, creating a positive domino effect. This chain reaction can transcend boundaries, cultural differences, and social hierarchies. It reminds us that we are all part of the same human family.

Fostering Empathy

Kindness is not only about helping others; it’s also about understanding them. It requires us to step into another person’s shoes, to see the world from their perspective. This empathy is a vital building block for a more compassionate and harmonious society. It can lead to greater tolerance and acceptance of our differences.

Creating a Kinder World

In a world where we’re bombarded with negative news and divisive rhetoric, it’s easy to become disheartened. But kindness reminds us that there’s goodness in the world, too. Each act of kindness, no matter how small, contributes to a kinder, more compassionate world. It’s a collective effort, one that each of us can participate in.

Kindness isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a manifestation of our inner strength and humanity. It has the power to heal wounds, build bridges, and transform lives. So, let’s make kindness a part of our daily lives. It doesn’t take much to be kind, but the impact it has is immeasurable. As the saying goes, “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.” By doing so, we contribute to a brighter, more harmonious world for all.

Benney the coach

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Influence.

Not everything we believe to be true is true and not everything we believe to be untrue is an untrue, it all depends on perspective.

What influences you?

Who influences you?

Who do you influence?

I ask these questions because it’s important for us to realise the influences in our lives and how they dictate how we live.

At a young age we learn much about life from our parents, our grandparents, family members, teachers, books, TV, film the list goes on, growing up we have had our lives influenced by many people and things even into our adult lives without even knowing it, we have taken on many of there values and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong, true and false even real and fake and these beliefs and values even echo’s onto who we now influence.

As a coach, I talk with a lot of people that have trouble with living their lives because there belief systems clashes with how they live life and perceive it to be, leaving them unhappy, confused, torn, lost, alone and often depressed. My job is to help people understand that with adjustment to there values and beliefs through looking at why they believe the things they do and how they may not be true beliefs and they may not be serving them as they should be, we can then work together and find a clearer path that’s more rewarding mentally and spiritually for them, creating new values and beliefs along the way.

 

Every person is different and there is no one-way of changing a belief system to one that’s more relevant and truthful to the individual involved, its down to the individual them selves what they are willing to let go of and what they are open to learn that’s the biggest ask, because it can sometimes bring pain, loss, sorrow, doubt, regret and even fear before it brings strength, happiness, meaning, belonging, self value and love.

 

Changing our beliefs and values can change our lives in so many positive ways but its not easy, and having a coach supporting you, helping you, guiding you and most importantly believing in you throughout the bad as well as the good times, is an investment not only in your yourself but also in your future.

 

Geraint Rhys Benney D.P.S. Life and Spiritual Coach

 

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The Choice

I was asked recently how I keep such a stiff upper lip in times of stress and turmoil, and how I never seem sad or down anymore. Well the answer I gave wasn’t expected, or at least I don’t believe it was. You see, my answer was: I do still stress out at times, I do still feel sad and have bad days just like everyone else does – the only difference is that I don’t let them consume me or ruin my day. I make a conscious decision to stay positive and calm whenever I can. It’s not easy and it’s taken time for me to be able to control my actions and reactions to everyday misfortunes, but anyone can do the same with determination and a little self-belief. It’s all too easy to complain and feel sorry for ourselves, but it gets us nowhere. Life needn’t be a hindrance; life can be amazing if we truly want it to be, and we can live it on our terms.

If you feel you’re getting the sharp end of the stick and life is being a bitch, or if you’ve simply had a guts full of feeling low, why not get in contact? Together we can build a better tomorrow for all of us.

Geraint Rhys Benney Life Coach

Founder of Byw

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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

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Strive to Be

I get asked why I do what I do, and what I get out of it quite often; when I get asked this question I feel proud to answer. I do what I do because I choose to. I choose to live a happy, fulfilled life on my terms because I have the self-belief that what I do is the right thing to do. What I get out of it is self-fulfilment. I have the ability to make a difference in the world, it’s who I am, it’s what makes me feel alive, it’s my passion. There are no excuses or barriers: if we want something hard enough we will fight until our last breath to achieve it. If I can inspire, help or bring positivity and hope to one person each day, then I have achieved what I have set out to do. I strive to make a difference, to give hope and show that everyone – and I mean everyone – can become and achieve whatever they set their mind on. Life is a maze and we can easily get lost within it, but we are not alone, and if we don’t panic and don’t let doubt set in, we can follow in the footsteps of the people who came before us. We can create a clearer path for those who are to follow. I started Byw as a tool for self-improvement. My initial plan was for me to use it to help myself overcome problems and sculpt a better existence( one where I choose how I experience life, and I choose to be positive. Byw has grown – and is still growing – into something more than I could have imagined. It’s given me a platform to share what I have learned with the world and the world has responded with gratitude and appreciation. Admittedly, I still have a lot to learn and a long way to travel before I reach my destination, but I know that along the way I get to be part of something amazing. If I’m able to share the amazing things then I will, I strive to be, so you can too.

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All Is Well

All is well and all shall be well: words I tell myself daily. Having something to believe in and having faith are two of the most important lessons we must learn if we are to achieve. If self-improvement is your goal then these two lessons should be your main goals also. Self-belief and faith in your own abilities are your best friends; you need to spend as much time working alongside them, spend every waking minute together. We are all good at telling ourselves how useless we are, or having doubts about our abilities – we can be and usually are our worst enemies. It’s hard getting to know yourself and if you really want change in your life then then being honest with yourself is important, and dealing with your issues is vital. I’m not talking about external issues, I’m talking about internal ones. There is usually a main reason for our internal turmoil and that is us being dishonest with ourselves because it’s easier to run away and pretend they aren’t there and fake it. There are some really good actors amongst us not getting any credit for their Oscar worthy performances – they should give themselves a slap on the back. We all pretend everyday for one reason or another, as it’s how we have learned to survive since birth; we do it without even knowing about it, it comes naturally. What I’m saying, is finding out where you act and asking yourself why is the only time you will get to see the real you. By facing our fears, our demons, our insecurities, we can start to gain self-belief and faith in our abilities without the negativity of the past. I’m careful when I talk about people being to blame for their own shortcomings or problems because I know more than anyone that we don’t choose our upbringing or our social stature as children. As we get older we do have a choice in the directions we take. Life is a story from beginning to end, and our story can be whatever we want it to be, good or bad. Life is life and it’s what we make of it that counts. If you’re a regular reader of my blogs then you’ll know that what I find helpful is using mindfulness and the law of attraction. These two methods of thinking and living have given me peace, have helped me and still are helping me become the best person I can possibly be; not an act to impress others, but for my own self-belief and faith. I do it because that is the person I am and not the person I want to be. I am the person I want to be, I still have a lot of issues that need my attention but I’m not running from them anymore. I’m at peace with who I am, I have learned to forgive my self for any shortcomings I may have had, I’ve learned that I don’t control the external world and the external world doesn’t control me. All is well that shall be well is what I have faith in and believe to the depths of my soul. It’s just as much a part of me as the belief I have in myself and the faith I have in what I do. I am Geraint Rhys Benney and all is well and all shall be well.

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Man in the Mirror

We walk past them everyday, mirrors, they seem to be everywhere we go these days. Even windows and doors act like them – we and everyone and everything around us is reflected back non-stop, but do we ever stop and look? We are so busy running around we don’t notice the ‘other us’ running around with us – we just take it for granted that they’re always there. When was the last time you stopped and had a conversation with the other you? I’m talking about you standing in front of a mirror and (seemingly) having a conversation with yourself or just acknowledging who’s there? What, never? Surely you’ve been stood in front of a mirror brushing your teeth and looked up and given yourself a smile, or looked in a mirror when trying on a new outfit, telling yourself you look good? Of course you have, we have all done it, so why not take it one step further and talk to them? Self-recognition is something we like to stay away from as humans, it’s easier to be what we think other people expect us to be, rather than who we really are, and by doing so we lose something precious, and that’s the ability to do what’s good for us. Whenever I have a big dilemma, whenever I need advice from someone who knows me best, I go to the mirror – preferably a large one so I can see as much of me and my surroundings as possible – and I talk. I stare at myself and let rip, whatever my issue, I let it all out and all the while staring in to that mirror. I’ve shouted, I’ve screamed, I’ve cried, I’ve let out every emotion possible all directed at myself, and by doing this I have seen myself at my lowest and I can tell you now, it works. If we think we live in a world that needs changing then we need to look at ourselves and start there. The person in the mirror is the person that not only knows you best, but are the only real people you can truly trust to ask the important questions that need answering. Get to know yourself better, strip right down to the bare essentials, rip yourself apart then put yourself back together again. It works, it really does; we have to be totally honest with ourselves when we do this or there is no point in trying, after all, you’ll only be lying to yourself and that’s just stupid. I use mirror therapy as part of the mindful-attraction one-to-one life improvement course, and I believe it’s one of the best tools that I use. It can be done alone at home with written instructions or can be done with guidance from me. It’s liberating, it’s eye-opening, it’s mind-changing. It’s You. We have everything within us to solve the questions we want answering about ourselves, all we need is a little bit of courage to face ourselves. If you want to know more about mirror therapy and Mindful-Attraction then please get in touch, and please remember all consultations are free.

Geraint Rhys Benney

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Good Vibrations

Have you ever had a feeling? You know what I mean, a hunch, a premonition that you know what’s about to happen next, good or bad? Yes? What did you do? When we get these feelings, the majority of us never take any notice of them, we brush them off as a glitch of sorts, but then again some of us have learned to actually respond to that feeling – with great effect. Now the big question I ask myself is: what is this feeling? Intuition, a sixth sense, being psychic, spider senses; whatever we call it, it’s real, we can’t deny this, or are we all imagining it? Anyway let’s get on to the matter at hand; what is it? And why don’t we take more notice of it? Think about it: each and every one of us has felt this, it can’t just all be down to coincidence can it? We all have a kind of superpower that we take no notice of, what would happen if we all started to take notice of our senses? We see with our eyes, we hear with our ears, we smell with our nose and so on, but we have lost the ability to sense. Animals still use sense, it’s a part of their everyday life. Animals are mindful, let’s say their senses have a kind of magical or mystical quality to them. They don’t talk to each other, as far as we know, they use their intuition and their senses to communicate, they use them to communicate with their environment and the world around it. We also have this power within us and I believe we have simply forgotten how to use it. There are Shaolin monks that show unbelievable powers of mind and body, there are Indian mystics, shamans, village elders, the list goes on and on: humans pulling off unbelievable feats that seem basically unexplainable. So why, if we know that we have this ability don’t we try and use it for our own benefit? This is the question that bugs me the most. It’s not difficult to learn to take back this power, just by using basic meditation and mindfulness – that’s all it takes. I’m not saying we will all evolve to the next level of consciousness overnight, but hey, what I’m saying is by spending time on our minds we might just learn something new about ourselves. Everything in the universe is vibration, and I mean everything from the smallest atom to the biggest planet – it’s all a vibration. I’m not talking rubbish I’m talking science, I’m talking quantum physics. Me and you are connected by vibration and in turn we are all connected with everything through vibration, and I believe our senses are our transmitter for reading the signals shooting about around us by taking more notice of our senses as much as we take notes of our usual senses that we take for granted. I like to think that Mindfulness and meditation help us become more stable in the energy stream of the universe. If we are in a state of being aware of the energy around us, the eternal energy of the universe will talk to us trough our senses, and once we expand our awareness then the magic happens. Life and the world changes, we change, in fact, everything changes. Everything I talk about and everything I write about I believe to be true, 100%. They are the beliefs that I live my life by, we can all live the life we choose to live, we have the ability to ride the waves of the universal vibration, good or bad, I chose to live on the good vibration, and you can too.

Geraint Rhys Benney.