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Nothing is unless we make it so.

We all have different needs, we all have different beliefs – in fact, I’d say we are all as different as can be, but are still the same in many ways. Who we are and how we live is a complicated issue. We all perceive life in various ways, as if living in different realities. Some of us find life’s journey difficult, some of us find it less so; it’s all down to perspective and perspectives can be changed. But whose perspective is right and whose is wrong? Well to be totally honest with you, I don’t believe there is a right or wrong way – we are all guessing. There is no big book of how to live our lives correctly, unless we take religious texts into consideration – but they are only the ideologies of a group of people who hold their own agenda and not a reliable ‘go to’ book. If there was a guide book in my mind, it would have a simple premise: be loving, be kind, be happy, be grateful, be confident and believe. We all know right from wrong, when we should and shouldn’t be doing something. I guess what I’m trying to say is, as humans, we have the ability to make choices in our lives, we can stay or we can go, we can say yes or no, we are not rooted to the spot. ‘Nothing is unless we make it so’ is a statement I truly believe in; it’s the fundamental principle of what I teach and how I live my life. I believe if we live a good, positive life then good things will come to us, and we learn to appreciate life for the beauty and opportunities it brings. Me and you, you and me, we can be who we want to be, and if we shoot our dreams a little too far out into the universe and we run out of time, at least we would have had an amazing journey along the way.

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You’re Worth the Effort 

When life feels like it’s hit rock bottom, the only way for us to go is back up. Don’t see it as a bad thing, think of all the good that can come also. Life is a game and we can play along randomly, hoping we are playing correctly. We can give up and hide away from it all and pretend it’s not happening, or we can take charge, reinvent ourselves and start living by our own rules. Life isn’t easy and it isn’t fair, but letting it grind us down is a sure way of losing touch with who we are and who we really could be. Mindful Attraction offers us the chance of getting the ball rolling in a journey of self-improvement, self-awareness and burning belief that anything is possible with the power of you. Seeing people improve or change their lives gives me the drive to carry on with what I first thought was just an idea, and by sharing this idea I have touched so many people – not only my friends and family and my class attendances, but people from all over the wold that follow my blog and social media. Sometimes it’s easy to forget why we started something, but it’s ok as long as you remember that you did start and that our journey will not always be steady. Learning along the way is the key to remembering. Never give up on yourself, you are worth the effort.

Geraint Rhys Benney

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Making your Mind up

What is it you want in life? 
Success?
Love?
Happiness?
The list can go on forever, it can be hard to concentrate on one thing at a time and being this way could be holding us back from achieving what it is we really desire. We are confusing the universe. Imagine that someone asks you for something, then asks again minutes later for something very slightly different, and keeps doing this over and over again. It would be too confusing a wish to grant, yes? Life is confusing, nobody will argue with us there I’m sure, but life needn’t be impossible. We can have order in amongst the chaos. If we want to ask the universe for something, we need to give it clear and direct instructions of what we want, then we need to let it go; the more thought we give it afterwards, the bigger the chance of it not working out the way we want it to. Make your wish, say your prayer and trust in the power of the universe and its core inside of you to provide what you ask for.

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Act not React 

Have you heard of the saying ‘if it feels right then it probably is’? The same goes for the negative version of this. Some call it our sixth sense others, call it premonition, and I like to call it my spider sense. To be honest it doesn’t matter what we call it, it’s real and we can use it to our advantage. Now reading these senses is not as easy as we may think and sometimes we can get our wires crossed; instead of listening to what’s happening to us, we tend to jump to conclusions and create undesirable outcomes. Our brain is a complicated place and really does have a mind of its own, the subconscious mind that is. Now when we start getting these feelings, the subconscious mind automatically tries to predict the outcome from previous experiences – usually negative ones – and when this happens we need to say stop, take stock of what it is we are feeling and go with it. It’s us, not our subconscious that holds this power of perception. I like to think that I’m pretty good with using my senses but it hasn’t always been that way. I have been as guilty as anyone for letting my subconscious influence how I react and meditation has been my biggest help in overcoming this. Something of a gift. In fact, a gift is exactly what I see it as because it’s changed my life. Everyone that knows me knows I believe that our words and feelings have the potential to shape our lives, giving us the ability to achieve our end goals or simply live happy lives. I also believe that by being aware of our senses, we can also use them to create positivity. We can do this by guiding them in the right direction and feeding the senses with positive action rather than letting the subconscious act out its usual negative reaction. We can choose to act and not react when the moment happens, it’s a simple choice that we can make. Try it out and see how it makes you feel. Next time your spider senses start to tingle, take a deep breath, hold it for ten seconds whilst looking forward to something positive arriving in your life, then let go and get on with the rest of your day without giving it a thought for 24 hours. After that time have a think of all the positive things that came along and give them the gratitude they deserve. Thank you for taking time to read my blog and feel free to look over my previous publications. If you’re interested in anything you find helpful in my blogs please feel free to contact me.

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Fresh Starts 

So we are now in 2017, it’s the season of resolutions and fresh starts for many of us, but how many of us actually succeed in the goals that we set ourselves? We all have good intentions in wanting change to happen, but in reality we also fear the outcome. Sometimes we give ourselves unrealistic time limits that all too quickly come around without us achieving what we set out to achieve, which ultimately persuades us it’s better to give up. It’s hard starting a new project or program of change – no matter how big or small it may be – and putting limits on ourselves before we start is a recipe for disaster. When starting something new, no matter what it is, we need to begin slowly, learn as much as we can and study the people that have gone before us and see how they got what they wanted. We need to find out everything we can and be prepared to fail over and over again whilst still never giving up. Life is full of challenges that help us grow, and it’s having the ability to stay strong during these times that eventually leads us to where we want to be. Life is tough but so are we; we can be anything we choose to be, we can be whoever we choose to be. Life isn’t predestined, we get to choose each step of our journey and we have full control if we choose to use it.

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Moany, Moany

I moan, you moan, in fact, we all like to have a good old moan now and again – it helps us unwind and it lets us get things off our chests. Moaning can be good when done in moderation. If we let moaning become the main way we express ourselves, then life will undoubtedly become more or less unbearable to live. Why would we choose to live in a world that we find unbearable? I’m not judging people who choose to live this way; I find it more interesting than annoying, I’m intrigued to know if they are happy living like this and whether they want to change. I have written – and I’m writing again – about how we are what we think, because we are exactly that. We create the world we live in by the way we perceive it, we project our feelings and thoughts outward to create a reality that manifests into life. It’s not rocket science really, it’s common sense and I know you understand what I’m saying – it’s so simple a child can understand it. So we all understand it on an intellectual level, we see it and can agree in principle that ‘we are what we think’ makes total sense. It’s on an emotional level I think some find it difficult to accept. We are emotional beings by nature, and if not kept in check, our emotions can create a reality that can overshadow our actual reality, and we then start to perceive the new version as our own. There is a fantastic book by Professor Steve Peters called ‘The Chimp Paradox’ that explains how our brain works. You can find videos explaining Professor Peters theory on YouTube, please take some time to have a look (after finishing the blog of course) – I guarantee you will enjoy it. We all have the ability to change the way we perceive life, we can all flip it around and choose to make change; it’s not hard, what is hard, is sticking with our decision and seeing it through to its conclusion. We can carry on moaning and accept life on its terms or we can take charge and create a life on our terms. We can still have a moan, but let’s use it as a luxury item and give it the respect it deserves. If you’re already happy and content in your life then who am I to tell you to live differently? After all, it’s your life and your choice to live any way you see fit, the same as it’s my choice to live my life the way I feel inclined. We all have a choice, and that’s the point I’m trying to make. How we make the choices in our lives are relevant to our happiness. Life can be so much more than mundane! Life can be extraordinary, life can be adventurous, life can be ours to do whatever we want to do with it: life can be happiness.
By Geraint Rhys Benney 

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If we don’t ask

If we want something from someone, we generally ask if it’s possible to have it, and more often than not, we get what we ask for. If we don’t ask, then we are not going to receive. Everyone knows that I talk to the universe on a regular basis, asking for things to manifest into my life, and i genuinely get what I ask for every time – even if I don’t recognise that I have. Sometimes I don’t ask clearly, sometimes I’m vague, but over time and out of nowhere I still get what I desired. Our dreams, ambitions and goals don’t always appear in our lives like we wish them to; they can be disguised or come at us from a direction we would not expect them to, so what we need is to be aware of them. I have a lot on in my work and personal life at the moment, and I have been asking the universe for ways to help me out. Being busy, I sometimes miss out on the opportunities that come my way because I’m not looking out for them, even when they’re right under my nose. For instance, I have been asking for help with Byw, help in communicating my message to the general public, then came along a job as a tour guide at the Royal Mint – explaining the history and the process of manufacturing money. So how I hear you asking, is that helpful with Byw? I’ll tell you how: because I’m now interacting with up to 125+ people a day, something I’ve not done in the past – well, not as myself anyway. Holding the group of individuals in the palm of my hand and having them hang on my every word has given me the experience and confidence to now stand up and talk about the things that matter to me. Putting myself in a position that makes me feel uncomfortable and nervous is what I needed to shake off my insecurities, and now standing up and publicly speaking is like water off a ducks back. I do it without thinking, it comes naturally to me. When the opportunity came along to work as a host/tour guide, I wasn’t sure if I wanted to take it, I wasn’t sure how it fitted in with my life plan, I wasn’t sure why this opportunity was presenting itself to me. 3 months later and the reasons have become apparent; I am now able – and now more than willing – to stand and talk in front of a crowd, no matter the size. May it be in front of one or in front of ten million people, as long as I know my subject, then there should be no fear, only excitement and anticipation. Lessons come at us in many shapes and sizes, they are usually sent to us because we have asked for them in some way; it’s recognising them when they appear that’s important. 
By Geraint Rhys Benney 

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Fantastic.

‘Have a fantastic day’ is something I’ve told almost everyone I have come across on my travels today – and I mean it. I genuinely want them to enjoy their day and for it to be fantastic. The words we use have an effect on not only ourselves, but also the people we connect with daily. We can make someone’s day by simply being kind or thoughtful towards them. I’ve covered this subject a number of times over the last year, but I never get tired of reminding everyone that our words matter; what we talk about and the words we use can shape our day, can make it positive or negative – and we have the power to choose. You can’t disagree with me when I say that negative language will undoubtedly create a negative atmosphere: it’s common sense, so why do we do it? I have made a conscious decision to be as positive about my day as I can, so I’m careful about the language I use and the language I listen to, and I choose to live this way because I can. We all can. It only comes down to us wanting to and doing so, after all, we are the masters of our own reality and happiness. The reason I radiate my positivity is because I can’t help myself! I want to share a little bit of my happiness with everyone I meet, I’m like a gift that keeps on giving. 

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Finding one’s self

The majority of people I talk to all seem to have the same problem in their lives and it comes in many forms. If we dig a little deeper, the underlying issue we all have appears to come down to self-confidence or self-awareness; or the lack of. I know it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to come up with that conclusion and neither does it take a brain surgeon to realise that learning to love oneself can change how we feel – but I’m not only talking about ourselves. It can also change how we see the world around us. When life starts becoming a little overwhelming, I have come up with a plan of action that I use to change the direction I’m travelling in. By splitting my life up into sections, I sit down and analyse them: personal, work, family, love-life and the like. I look at them all as separate realities until I can single out which part of my life is causing the issue, as it’s not always apparent. Let me explain; we all live our lives as a single entity because that’s what we perceive it to be, but in reality we all live multiple lives and sometimes we let the issues from one determine how we feel in another. If we can learn to become more self-aware, we become more aware of how life works, we recognise that we play a number of roles depending on our circumstances. When at home we play the role of partner, parent, sibling, home owner. When at work we play the roles of boss or worker, client or customer etc. I think you’re getting the drift. It’s all too easy to let the different roles we have affect how we live the others, and unless we are willing to recognise that this, nothing will ever change. If we are willing to see that we are living our lives this way, we can make dramatic changes without affecting the balance of what is working. Self-confidence and self-awareness give us the opportunity to challenge ourselves and encourage us to succeed where we would usually fail, and by having the confidence to ask ourselves the questions about who we are and what makes us tick, we can start building a life all our personalities can exist within harmoniously.